There can be any number of reasons why your girl left you. However every single one of those reasons cause something very CRITICAL to happen to her. They all caused her to LOSE interest in you.
So you screwed up and cheated on her or you couldn’t control your emotions and did or say something that caused her to leave. Maybe you thought everything was fine and out of the blue she just up and left. Leaving you to wonder “why did she leave me?”
To answer the question of why did she leave you, we have to first know why she got with you in the first place.
The reasons why a woman gets together with a man are not what you think they would be.
For men, our decision to get with a woman is based mostly on how she looks. If she looks physically attractive then we feel an urge to want to be with her. Women on the other hand, get together with men for very DIFFERENT reasons.
Of course looks matter to some extent with women but not as much as it is for men. Women mostly base their decision on how a man makes them feel. They want feelings of safety and security and their interest level is tied directly to those feelings. Often times these two feelings are connected to each other. Women get these feelings when a man can demonstrate that he is a “protector and provider.”
Let me go through a few scenarios on reasons why she left. Let’s say you cheated on her. Well that simply violates her feeling of security as your time and resources may be taken up by this other woman. This lowers her interest dramatically.
Or maybe you have anger issues or you’re an alcoholic. That violates her feelings of safety. She’s not going to stay if she’s fearing for her life.
But what if you didn’t do any of those and thought you were being a good partner. Well, what probably happened was you became either inattentive, lived without any sort of aspirations, or not being a “man.” Any of these also violate her feelings of safety and security.
Think about it, being inattentive sends her an unconscious signal telling her that you don’t care much about her. On a deep, primal level that violates her feeling of safety. If something were to happen to her, you wouldn’t be there to help. And not having any aspirations tells her you’re not actively seeking to provide a better and more SECURE life for her.
And as for not “manning” up? Well that is EVERYTHING.
Here’s some food for thought: Why do women complain all the time that can’t seem to find any “real” men.
Why are they all seeking a “real” man so badly?
What goes through your mind when you think of a “real man”?
What qualities does he have?
You probably came up with a description of a man who represents EVERYTHING women are looking for. When boiled downed, he’s the kind of man who is fearless and willing to risk his life to save his loved ones(protector). He is also fiercely ambitious and seeks to attain everything he wants in life(provider).
So in the beginning when she got with you, you probably had your best foot forward and represented what she wanted. However, as time went by, your real self started to show or you became less masculine. She then realized that you weren’t fulfilling her needs. That’s when her interest level starts to drop and she can’t help it. I hope that answers the question of “why did she leave me?”