Being dumped by your girlfriend is devastating. You either saw it coming or it caught you by surprise and left you wondering “I can’t believe my girlfriend broke up with me!” Either way, you’re still shocked and rattled by it.
I remember the very first time my girlfriend broke up with me. Of course she gave a dumb excuses similar to “It’s not you, it’s me.” It made me feel worthless. I could barely eat for the rest of the week. I couldn’t sleep. All I could think about was why did she break up with me? Was I not good enough? What did I do wrong? Is there some other guy I didn’t know about?
It’s a horrible feeling.
I tried calling her but she wouldn’t pick up the phone. She didn’t return any of my voice-mails. I later found out she deleted my phone number and blocked me on Facebook.
I wanted to communicate with her so bad that I did started to do things that looked so desperate now that I think about it.
I would do things like call her 20 times a day, leaving 5 or 6 voice-mails. I’d show up at her workplace unannounced with flowers and I would CRY and BEG. I would make threats about ending my life if she didn’t get back with me.
It was brutal… and embarrassing!
And none of that stuff worked. In fact, all it did was drive her further away from me. Which made me feel even worse. If you’re a typical guy like me, you can probably relate to what I went through.
If only I knew then what I know now, I would have been able to get her back into my life.
If I had been paying attention, I would’ve seen the signs that say she’s unhappy with me and the relationship.
Regardless of why things ended between you and your girlfriend, it’s still very possible to get her back into your life. You just need to do a few things and make some changes.
You’ll need to start by ending all contact with her for at least a month. This is known as the No Contact Rule and it gives her time to miss you, but more importantly, it gives you a chance to heal from the breakup.
This means no calling her, no texting her, no emailing her, no messaging her on Facebook, no showing up at her house or workplace, and no loitering around places that she frequents.
What she should experience is you dropping off the face of the earth and disappearing from her life.
If during this time she contacts you, say something like “Hey I’m glad you called, I hope you’re doing well. Look, I’m kind of busy right now, maybe we can talk later.” And then end the call.
You don’t want to talk to her just yet.
This has the effect of piquing her interest and making her wonder what you’ve been doing and if you’ve found someone new. This is great as it lowers her guard and makes it easier for you communicate with her when the time is right.
Now for a step-by-step process on exactly what to do when you get in touch with her again that will give you the best chance at winning her back, I recommend you check out The Magic of Making Up. It’s a comprehensive program that will teach you how to get your girlfriend back as well as how to keep her for good.